How to Manage Worry Through Positive Actions: An SEL Lesson

Worry is a universal experience that affects people of all ages. While it's normal to feel concerned or anxious at times, excessive worry causes one to enter the Negative Thoughts-Actions-Feelings Circle. That’s why equipping grade 1 students with valuable skills to manage their feelings of worry is essential. In this evidence-based SEL lesson, young learners embark on a journey with Willie, a relatable young boy, to discover the power of positive actions in overcoming worry.

Willie is a young boy prone to worrying. He is constantly consumed by worry, particularly when faced with challenges like an upcoming math test. Instead of taking positive actions, such as practicing with flashcards, he spends his time fretting over what could go wrong. Willie's worries extend beyond academics, including concerns about losing lunch money, being teased by classmates, and even losing in a game of musical chairs. Recognizing his distress, Willie's caring teacher intervenes and guides him toward a more constructive approach.

Willie's teacher engages in a conversation with him, emphasizing the importance of replacing worry with positive actions. Rather than dwelling on the fear of, say, someone being unkind to him, Willie is encouraged to take the positive action of getting along with others. Through this dialogue, Willie realizes that many of his worries are unfounded and never materialize. He begins to understand that the most effective way to manage feelings of worry is to choose positive actions.

Following the story, the classroom becomes a safe space for students to delve into the meaning of "worry" and explore their personal concerns. As they engage in an open discussion, the students realize that worry, in and of itself, does not change anything. However, positive actions have the power to shape their experiences and outcomes. This collective understanding encourages the first graders to take charge of their worries and adopt proactive approaches.

Next, the class identifies a range of positive actions that can be chosen instead of worrying. For instance, instead of worrying about doing poorly in school, they can practice positive actions that meet the needs of a healthy mind, like thinking creatively, learning something new, solving problems, and memorizing. By managing feelings of worry through positive actions, students cultivate resilience, confidence, and a greater sense of control over their lives. Not only that, but they also feel good about themselves.

Teaching first graders to manage their worries is an invaluable investment in their emotional development. Through the story of Willie, these young learners gain insight into the negative cycle that excessive worrying can create. By focusing on positive actions instead of allowing worry to consume them, they realize that worry does not change their circumstances. Instead, it is through positive actions that they can empower themselves and shape their own experiences. Equipped with this knowledge, first graders are on the path to becoming resilient individuals who can navigate life's challenges confidently and optimistically.